Actions and re-actions...the lessons continue.

It seems that lately Ally has been doing a lot screaming and yelling when she doesn't get her way and back talking. I personally am getting really sick of it! I will ask Ally if she will please go clean her room. This leads to a lot of "I don't want to's" and "why" and "it will take too long". This usually goes on for about five min. and then she gets sent to her room where she starts this crying and screaming bit about how she's not special and something else that we can never understand. After going in several times asking her not to yell, telling her not to yell and about 10 min. later she finally has calmed down enough to come out and talk. There are about a bunch of steps there that shouldn't have to be there. So what do we do?

So... I have been thinking about it, watching some shows, "Nanny 911", "World's strictest parents". and have been thinking about what they are doing. Man! People thought I was strict...ha the last show is wow! That's about it. So I am trying a new approach.

What I am going to try to do is this, if she is doing something that is not okay, yelling in the house, running in the house or something that is not okay in general she is going to be asked to stop once. If she has to be asked again she is going into a warning zone. This means that the next step will be a time out or some privileges will be taken away, TV for example. If She has to be asked again she is put in time out for 6 min. (she is 6 after all), and when she comes out we are going to discuss what the consequences are for what has happened.

Yesterday, for example, while I was getting ready for work and getting stuff ready for everyone I asked her if she would get dressed and stated shorts and t-shirt today. She came out wearing a fancy dress and asked if she could wear that. When I stated that no she couldn't it would be too hot for that dress she started yelling and throwing a fit. Long story short I was 10 min. late leaving to get the kids to day care and 15 late to work. NOT COOL!
So last night she and I talked and I told her that she was loosing her TV privileges and that she was going to have to do some extra chores that mommy normally does. She had to pick up the living room, the entry way and vacuum along with going to bed early. She was awesome about this. She was supposed to pick up her room last night but I wanted her into bed early so I slid on that one. This morning she picked up her room and we had a great morning. When we got into the car she started to get a bit of a 'tude and when I asked her if she wanted to do some extra chores tonight she said no and that was the end of the 'tude. Eureka!!

Hopefully this will be the end of the screaming issue for a while.
Oh, by the way here is the picture with me a Larry the Cucumber off Veggie Tales. Enjoy!
'till later